Friday, October 18, 2013


The last twenty four hours have been marked with good progress in recovery. Open and honest communication has led to better understanding and a greater sense of peace, and this morning I took a big step toward restoring my personal sanity. I made a small change that will have a big impact on my daily routine and, hopefully, a big impact on my ability to look forward from now on.

Our recent family vacation helped recharge the parts of me that felt sucked dry. My stores of good emotion have been refilled, and I can feel myself returning to the happier person I once was.

Recovery from trauma is slow and tiresome for both POSSLQ and me, but I can already see the fruits of our hard work - we are becoming the sort of couple we always should have been. We are open and honest and affectionate and happy to be together.
Fresh out of the hot springs

Sunday, October 13, 2013

A Third of My Life

A decade. Ten years. Nearly a third of my life.

That's how long I've spent making a life with POSSLQ. What started out as a casual friendship quickly developed into more, and somehow slipped into a shared vision of the future.

Time is a funny thing. I'm always amazed how a part of one's life can seem so long ago and so very recent at the same time. I can remember the early days of our relationship so vividly, but it also seems like I can barely remember the time before he was a part of my life.

In ten years, we've have quite a ride. All relationships are full of ups and downs, and ours is no different. We've weathered a storm recently, but seem to have come out the other side stronger and healthier, more committed to our future and each other.

October 2013
January 2004, four months into our adventure